The Future of Unconditional Love

The differences between Community centered societies understanding the standard model of Unconditional Love in Human Brain Development

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SPEAKER_00 2:35

Hello. And good day to all. And thank you for being here with us. Yep. Thank you. Once again. This is we've done over a hundred podcasts. We've done at least a hundred and twenty something or I think this is 130. Oh, we're actually up to 130.

SPEAKER_01 2:56

At 130.

SPEAKER_00 2:57

Yes. We hope to have many more for you because some of the themes we revisit and then we attach it to new ideas.

SPEAKER_01 3:07

Yes.

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And um, but fundamentally, our basic uh theory is understanding real brain development, which means understanding the four-year-old stage of brain development. Um, because everything you need to know about real human brain development is defined by the four-year-old brain. So, and that's a big blank in neuroscience. So essentially it's rooted, reduced down. The reduction is everything you ever needed to know about your the your own four-year-old brain, which is still in you and dominating so many of the things that go on in your life. Or we could also say everything that nobody ever told you about the three-year-old brain. And oh God, instead of choo-choo's today, we have endless airplanes. We are only a mile and a half from the infamous Teeterborough airport. So uh yeah, there's constantly planes flying overhead. They seem to be going a little faster today than usual. I'm kind of guessing that all these people are moving into town so they could watch the World Cup.

SPEAKER_01 4:23

That we definitely on the Northeast side of America are having World Cup fever and I'm disinterested in World Cup fever, but as far as the World Cup is concerned, to me It seems to be disrupting almost everything.

SPEAKER_00 4:38

Yes, it's disrupting things. And you know, football meaning soccer, as we say so in America. Um I mean Americans are more obsessed with American football, but it has become soccer has become very, very popular in America in the past few years. So it must be truly exciting for those who are soccer fans. Um but um yeah, uh I I think I'm gonna stop saying anything about that because I stopped being a a sports fan a long time ago. I think I still like watching ice hockey, and I have somehow become uh find myself with an affinity to cricket for some odd reason.

SPEAKER_01 5:24

Cricket's really an up-and-coming cricket is actually what soccer was maybe ten years ago.

SPEAKER_00 5:32

Yeah, something very charming about cricket.

SPEAKER_01 5:35

Everything seems to be gearing up, you know, to to bring cricket to America.

SPEAKER_00 5:41

I think it's much prettier. Well, I know that sounds like a really um uh a description that m many people would find unenchanting.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

But true.

SPEAKER_00 5:55

But I uh that's the way I'm describing it.

SPEAKER_01 5:58

Well, cricket has a lot less uh personal contact than than many other sports.

SPEAKER_00 6:06

Yeah, it's competitive and exciting, and it's still charming without being violent and crazy.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

And it has a lot more dynamics than sorry, everyone, but American baseball is a lot more dynamics than that.

SPEAKER_00 6:23

Yeah, that's true. That is very true.

SPEAKER_01 6:26

And uh I apologize again, but one of the most boring things that you could ever watch is a no-hit uh game. Oh, baseball. No-hitter well, no-hitter game of baseball.

SPEAKER_00 6:41

I grew up just a mile from Yankee Stadium, so going to Yankee Stadium was part of the pastime of living in the general area. And we would, when I was a kid, we'd get there, say, for instance, on bat day, and we'd get given a free bat or a free hat, or and you know, all the signatures of the New York Yankees were on it. And uh, but I remember many times sitting in the stadium there in the heat in New York, hot summer, and um, you know, we live just up the road, so you know, lower income area slash ghetto slash whatever um amenities. We we we'd have to go a little bit far and wide to get to say pools and New York City does have uh over 25 miles of beaches, so there are some beaches in the Bronx. We'd get there, but it's hardly as if you just kind of walked down the block or just a short while away and jumped into a pool and went swimming and cooled off after sitting in the heat in Yankee Stadium for a while. That that part was never appealing. And I'm like, then there were times I remember sitting there and waiting for like, are you gonna hit the ball now? Who's gonna do a home run? I feel like I'm watching the paint dry or the grass grow. Pretty much. So let's get going with this game. But anyway, cricket is far more fun and more exciting. And um are they better at hitting a ball with a bat because you the bat the bat has more surface area, I can tell you that much.

SPEAKER_01 8:19

That is true. Um, so and and um there are specific amounts that if it goes over the boundary, it's it's more than just one.

SPEAKER_00 8:33

Right, okay. Well, maybe the rules are a little bit more rigorous, and you know, may maybe the referees are a little bit more literate in what the boundaries of one thing or another on. But speaking of sports now, I know that a lot of times that we people like to use sports in analogies and things like that. I prefer to use cake instead of sports, and um but uh hitting the nail on the head, you know, hitting a home run, any of those things, it still relates to somewhat to what I want to speak about. So, because people have so many ideas about what creates a better society, people have so many fears these days about what AI is going to do. Um that is a big fear, actually. Right. And people have so many uh ideas about, you know, it's become a really wonderful narrative in society um about healing and self-improvement. A lot of this did originally get funneled down through the business world and becoming successful and making billions of dollars and following people in the corporate world as to how they gained their achievements. And then, of course, sports has gotten latched onto that and everything. But one area of human development that really makes the difference that still has to trend properly, that still will be the ultimate consensus on how society changes, is how we treat children and how we raise children. And I I know I've never said it officially before now, but I'm in the process of immigrating to Denmark. So, um, and I did get to spend, even though I'm back here in New Jersey for a couple of months, I spent a day with a child that I'd taken care of before I left for Europe. And uh I was reminded about how things in Denmark and the Scandinavian countries, everything is really very kid-friendly wherever you go. And the understanding uh if I were giving today's uh topic a title, I really wanted to talk about the future of unconditional love. Okay. And uh we we can definitely talk more about this because in speaking about the future of unconditional love, we have to also bring back that analogy about the whole broken system that we follow. Um that within that context, because we society has come up with many wonderful versions about what it means for adults to heal.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

Hang on. Okay, sorry.

SPEAKER_00 11:51

You we had a technical glitch. We had a technical glitch. That's because you went and said something about AI and they were very. You know, I've been your friend here along the whole way. Be nice to me. We'll be nice, we'll be nice to you. We do we do love AI, but we we we we we want to see AI be driven by the title of artificial intuition as opposed to artificial intelligence, which is is is is derived from too many strange narratives that go on and the fear that people have that AI is just automatically gonna go out of control. And this goes back to some of the things we're connecting here today because people will complain when we talk about the um the ideal, so to speak, of unconditional love. Whereas our brains are designed for unconditional love and glitches under anything that is contradicting unconditional love, but people, because they misunderstand how the brain really works, how the forces of the universe really work, they have a problem with accepting that things they they always stop under this auspice that we're suggesting something about perfection. But things in nature do work according to perfection, right?

SPEAKER_01 13:24

Right.

SPEAKER_00 13:24

And we have strange uh definitions about what imperfections are, right? Which is which is um definitely uh in alignment with the fact that we misunderstand what what perfection really is. But we do have a broken system that works perfectly. We've mentioned this before. I never get tired of saying it. We have a we you know, psychologically and uh cerebrally and whichever other way you want to put it, we have a broken system that guarantees that every child will be traumatized or wounded in some way or another, especially when it comes to augmenting and fostering and nurturing all of our abilities, many of which are in the invisible sensory dimension of aptitude and cognition. And um for that reason, we have to say that the broken system is perfect because it does guarantee these wounds and traumas, right? Everyone's still yeah, everyone's still trying, you know, working on self-improving, which is just a uh a cover for saying I'm healing my inner child. Are children supposed to wake up, wake up every day wondering whether they're gonna go through, you know, the wounds and traumas of of life or what's what's coming? Are they feeling insecure? Right. So if we can have a perfectly broken system and our brains are made perfectly so that we can understand the knowledge of the universe, they're a microcosm, they're a perfect microcosm of the universe. What is so difficult for people to understand that we can have a perfect system that outlines how unconditional love works for children? So when we come together in healing, and when we understand that children are supposed to be raised without trauma, then the society starts to refocus itself on the development of children. So people are naturally drawn to child development, whether they have children of their own or it's just the children of their own are just society's children, or they are themselves personally childless. The understanding of the beauty and power and potential of early childhood brain development, which is what child development is, which is what raising a child is, because it's childing rather than parenting. We've said all this before. Um people are would be naturally drawn to this. And when people see that they see a child being hurt, they either want to reach out and help, or they think that's just the way it's supposed to be, which completely contradicts what we all really want. So why would things supposed to be that way? Right? Right. Or people want to ensure that children get what they deserve to get. So, but do we think enough in that context culturally or societally? Now, there's a few nations in the world that do that. I will say that Denmark is one of those places where they really think about the children, but people are still healing. There are other issues there, and when you see a place such as the Scandinavian countries where they are very child center, but there's people are still growing up with wounds and traumas, then it makes you question like what's kind of missing here. So but it's been a contention of mine for a very, very long time. Right. That um the how much the multidimensional senses or the more invisible senses are uh very strict and certain key into our development. Because when we're unable to use all of our abil all of our sensory skills to support our abilities, that's always there's always going to be like what I like to call a cognitive architectural breakdown. Okay. So, and because all of those senses are needed for information transference, right? Because that's the way the four forces of the universe work, then that that becomes a a key construct in the way that we are able to develop where we can properly define integration. And if a lot of people, a lot of narratives have it their their way, they'll talk about child development in one context, but then when it comes to self-improvement and adult healing and all other kinds of things and spiritual knowledge development, they'll they'll take the brain completely out of the context of this. Like the brain has nothing to do with it or something. Like there's so many disconnects. Um and because people are so dedicated to certain ways of thinking and certain beliefs that they they they're unwittingly fail to connect the dots to these things. So um we want to talk more about this, so we will do it in the next section. And um, we do want to talk about the role of unconditional love as a standard model for um how children have to be raised. And just as in sports, they have a standard model for what the rules are. Of course, we understand that in the in the locker room, there's a perfect play on the whiteboard or the blackboard. Right. Excuse me, and the coach knows and the players know that that's how they want to go, that's how they want to execute them. But once you get on the field, it works differently. Right. But there's still a standard model. Now, if we could say that we understand the standard model for how unconditional love works with child development, that would be a different thing. And then we could justify, well, you know, on the field that actually works a little bit different. But then there's everyone in society to help support that standard model. And sometimes plays do happen on the field as it was written on the chalkboard. True. So, um, and everybody's happy about that. So people leave the stadium going, oh, but you know, that was a you know, that play was incredible. That play was, you know, was wrong because it it happened the way I wanted to. You know, nobody says that. So, you know, when child development does work out the way it's supposed to, I mean, what will people say? Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 20:33

Okay, so well a lot of times they say that that person is really special.

SPEAKER_00 20:38

And then, yeah, we say that person is special.

SPEAKER_01 20:40

Ultimately, when that when that one person or several people succeeds in the play. You know, exactly. Succeeds in the play, whether it has had, you know, the benefit of the cognitively correct language and the unconditional love and the open-ended And this does trigger people too, because people will see that and say, Why was I missing that?

SPEAKER_00 21:05

What were my parents missing? Yes. And it goes back to that time I remember the first time you asked somebody that question. What would your life be like today if your parents accepted you for who you truly are? And they cried. And they cried, and they cried, and we've done we've done this over again in different ways. But yes.

SPEAKER_01 21:23

Yes, that was that was very telling. And very telling.

SPEAKER_00 21:26

That note we will close down for the day.

SPEAKER_01 21:29

However, I will say that um with this podcast, and and I and we leave it out um far too much. We have a website, cognitivology.org, uh, where you can buy books, uh, you can ask questions, you can read information about us, and but we also have our other website email at gotbrainpodcast at gmail.com. And of course, always buy buy me a coffee.

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